“I understand not everybody is familiar with this writing tool. It is something I found online several years ago and began to use when I saw the common sense within it and as I read others words/writings/experiences with it. The best analogy I can make to help one better understand its effects would be to imagine when you are in an argument with someone. Now recall or bring up within yourself one of the times where you reached a point within yourself where the internal clouds/storm of emotion/anger/friction/conflict parted just enough that a new perspective was able to come through, where you were able to release your stance, giving yourself some room to consider your partner/the one you are arguing with- to see their side, to realize your reaction, to relax a little within yourself: To forgive them. To hear them forgive you, and to let those walls come down and realize you are on the same side. To share a hug, to bring peace and a return to mutual acceptance and patience with each other, a return to understanding and care, as if you were coming back together to something that is beneficial, nurturing and supportive, after having been out in a storm.
This is also what it is like to forgive yourself. You breach a divide that existed within you, and unite yourself into something greater and more powerful than you were when you were divided. You bring a piece of yourself back to yourself, and it feels like coming home. Self-forgiveness is like the living statement that you have decided to assist and support yourself unconditionally, and when that happens, what inevitably flows from you and your actions is a caring and a consideration for yourself and everything around you as if it were a part of you, and thus self-forgiveness also unites you to others, the people that surround you and the natural world, and you feel a little more at home in this world, and in your own skin.”
Forgiving yourself is crucial to manage and support yourself while walking through and healing your disorder (along with treatment if/when required). It does not involve blame, guilt, punishment or judgment. It allows for a pure, unfiltered, unprejudiced objectivity – simply seeing the reality of self, with no emotions attached.
When used constructively, self-forgiveness enables one to truly look objectively at oneself in order to see what it is we are actually doing within ourselves. This allows for clear self-seeing and self-understanding, which are precursors to self-change.
Self-forgiveness also assists and supports one to release long held self-judgements. Such self-judgements hold us hostage to our pasts, keeping us trapped into the cycles we are not even aware why or how we are creating.
Please do read the self-forgiveness blogs, because within them, you will see yourself for real, and hopefully also learn how to apply this amazing tool of support in your own life. When reading, you will see the depths of one individual, raw and unfiltered.
I have the same disorder as you, so you will inevitably also see yourself, perhaps in a new light that you always knew, but never fully brought into awareness.
The self-forgiveness and self-corrective statements shared here are extensive, there is a lot of it. Years were dedicated to writing it out, and every word of it can be lived, and if lived, will lead to healing. This is the kind of self-commitment that is possible, and necessary to heal oneself. If you are serious about taking back control of your life, be ready to truly step up to commit to and honour yourself for real, and perhaps for the very first time.