I have written these these self-commitment statements to support myself to change how I learn. Learning has been a hostile and laborious process for me throughout school, which seeped over into my working life.
I have been using the process of writing to de-program this perception I have held regarding learning and the learning process, and am re-scripting through words the way in which I would prefer myself to experience this process.This is related to skin-picking because I am dismantling trigger points that cause me to go into the disorder. One of these trigger points is being confronted/presented with a new concept I do not immediately understand.
I am looking into why this triggers skin-picking within me, and have discovered so far that the learning process overwhelms me. I need to look into this further to figure out why and how this is, how I created this in the first place, and how I have morphed it over time into something completely different that the initial experience/memories.
I am using my own self-realizations which I derive from writing self-forgiveness and self-corrective application statements in these blogs: Tracing the Source Patterns of Skin-Picking and Tracing the Source Patterns of Skin Picking (part two).
The following is based on this self-forgiveness, although more points opened up as I was writing, and I included them in the current self-corrective applications.
“I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to want/need/desire to understand everything immediately, in other words and furthermore:
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to think/believe/perceive that concepts are only understandable if I can understand them right away/immediately and without effort. Within this:
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to ‘shut down’ within myself when and as I am confronted/presented with a concept that I do not yet understand, due to the belief that I will never understand accompanied by frustration, confusion and self-judgment.”
When and as I see that I am ‘shutting down’ within myself as a form of self-defeat when/as I am confronted/presented with a new concept which I do not initially understand, I stop, and I breathe. I direct myself to take a step back and stop my participation within/as these reactions in order that I may clear my mind and starting point, and to look at the concept with ‘fresh eyes’, meaning, from a changed starting point; moving from “I just don’t get it”, to “how does this actually work/how can this make sense” – understanding that, within asking myself questions and looking at the concept for answers, I am essentially teaching myself the concept.
When and as I react within fear and self-judgment due to being confronted/presented with a new concept that I do not initially understand, and one which I can’t figure out on my own, I direct myself to utilize any resources available to me, such as documents, the internet, or individuals in my environment. I remind myself to remain present and to open my ears and my eyes to see and hear what is being explained to me, so that I don’t distract myself with thoughts/worries/beliefs/emotions that I might get it wrong or that I am being judged for not immediately knowing/understanding the concept. I see/realize/understand that this is my very own self-judgment that I am projecting on to others/my environment, causing me to feel like ‘shutting down’, when I can simply change my perception to create a learning environment that is open, accepting, supportive and enjoyable.